fbpx

Pregnant alone and scared

Visit page Forums Pregnancy Pregnant alone and scared

Tagged: 

Viewing 9 posts - 1 through 9 (of 9 total)
  • Author
    Posts
  • #2087
    Kim ForemanKim
    Participant

    Hello all,
    So I found out I was pregnant on Sunday (6 weeks guess), this was two days after my partner of 3 years ended our relationship and left our home. It is completely unexpected.

    I feel so alone and am trying to come to terms with the break up and pregnancy but it is all so overwhelming.

    My ex has made it clear he does not want the child, he already has twins with his ex wife. He keeps on telling me to think of the pressure and stress it would cause him and his children.

    I work full time doing unfriendly shift work with at least an hour commute. I have a mortgage on my house and our dog. I don’t have a family support network.

    I think I would like to keep the baby but just have no idea how I would be able to do that – with my job and paying the mortgage. It feels like all the support is there if you are on benefits but not a lot for people in my situation. I feel like with all that pressure, I cant see any other option but to have an abortion. It’s breaking my heart.

    Has anybody done this? Any advice?
    Thank you in advance

    Spread The Love
    •  
    •  
    •  
    •  
    •  
    •  
    •  
    •  
    •  
    •  
    •  
    • This topic was modified 1 year, 6 months ago by Angel SmithCavaWoman.
    #2088
    Angel SmithCavaWoman
    Keymaster

    Hi Kim,

    Oh Gosh what a situation!!!
    First of all you have time to carefully consider what to do- an abortion is allowed until 10weeks- you don’t need to rush to any decision today or tomorrow.

    My advice is to think about yourself- what do you want and what is best for you! This decision must come out of you!

    Your situation is very common, I met many women in your shoes and they are all terrified.
    I know thousand, millions of women that would die to get pregnant…
    With all my experience i have never heard any regrets from a woman that has decided to have a child but mostly regrets that she didn’t have.

    It’s all about you, you know what you want- take the decision whatever is best for you!

    Love
    N

    Spread The Love
    •  
    •  
    •  
    •  
    •  
    •  
    •  
    •  
    •  
    •  
    •  
    • This reply was modified 1 year, 6 months ago by Angel SmithCavaWoman.
    • This reply was modified 1 year, 4 months ago by Angel SmithCavaWoman.
    #2094
    Maya NachevaItaly78
    Participant

    Hi Kim,

    It’s not an easy situation but when someone feels lonely and abandoned most probably the pregnancy and the new life inside you should give this fantastic sensation that the love,the pure love really exists and you have it. I think that the baby will give you this unconditional sense that your existance  has real sense because according to me to create and bring up a new life is the most satisfied achievement for any women.

    Don’t be afraid…unexpected situations terrify but I am sure that you will find the force to overwhelm all the difficulties and be proud of yourselve.

    You have time to consider everything and make your plan….

    Good luck!

    I

    Spread The Love
    •  
    •  
    •  
    •  
    •  
    •  
    •  
    •  
    •  
    •  
    •  
    #2122
    John SmithJS
    Participant

    Kim 

    your life sounds great- House, dog, employment…I guess great bunch of friends.

    Depends on your views and your age you can make the right decision for you.

    Just move on and live, no time for regrets.

    Spread The Love
    •  
    •  
    •  
    •  
    •  
    •  
    •  
    •  
    •  
    •  
    •  
    • This reply was modified 1 year, 6 months ago by John SmithJS.
    #2382
    Sarah BSarah
    Participant

    Kim,

    how are you? What have you decided?

    Spread The Love
    •  
    •  
    •  
    •  
    •  
    •  
    •  
    •  
    •  
    •  
    •  
    • This reply was modified 1 year, 5 months ago by Sarah BSarah.
    #2829
    Sylvia SSylvia
    Participant

    Hi Kim,

     

    what a story! How are you?

    Spread The Love
    •  
    •  
    •  
    •  
    •  
    •  
    •  
    •  
    •  
    •  
    •  
    #2854
    Perpetual AddoPee
    Participant

    Hello my dear sister,

    Hope you made the right decision at the most difficult stage of your life. Though its been a while I believe these words will bring you freedom.

    I find myself in the same dilemma when my husband wanted an abortion instead of a third baby.

    I am just few weeks gone. I have decided to keep this and deliver the next “David”for my country and the kingdom of God. It was a tough decision but one thing that inspired me was that , almost/nearly aborted children mostly turn turn out unique, powerful, special, talented, brilliant, influential and so on.

    Be strong as a woman and believe me, you will never regret you had him or her.

    Let’s hear from you again soon.

    Stay well and safe.

    Spread The Love
    •  
    •  
    •  
    •  
    •  
    •  
    •  
    •  
    •  
    •  
    •  
    • This reply was modified 1 year, 4 months ago by Angel SmithCavaWoman.
    #4653
    Sarah BSarah
    Participant

    Pee,

    i can’t believe what your husband did. Has he came back and apologized?

    How are you doing?Where are you based?

    Spread The Love
    •  
    •  
    •  
    •  
    •  
    •  
    •  
    •  
    •  
    •  
    •  
    #4995
    Nina NenovaNikita
    Participant

    Hi Kim,

    i hope you decided to keep the baby.

    i am going through so many painful and expensive procedures to get pregnant and no success. It has been two years and no results yet. Would kill to be at your place

    Spread The Love
    •  
    •  
    •  
    •  
    •  
    •  
    •  
    •  
    •  
    •  
    •  
Viewing 9 posts - 1 through 9 (of 9 total)

You must be logged in to reply to this topic. Login or Register