So I found out I was pregnant on Sunday (6 weeks guess), this was two days after my partner of 3 years ended our relationship and left our home. It is completely unexpected.
I feel so alone and am trying to come to terms with the break up and pregnancy but it is all so overwhelming.
My ex has made it clear he does not want the child, he already has twins with his ex wife. He keeps on telling me to think of the pressure and stress it would cause him and his children.
I work full time doing unfriendly shift work with at least an hour commute. I have a mortgage on my house and our dog. I don’t have a family support network.
I think I would like to keep the baby but just have no idea how I would be able to do that – with my job and paying the mortgage. It feels like all the support is there if you are on benefits but not a lot for people in my situation. I feel like with all that pressure, I cant see any other option but to have an abortion. It’s breaking my heart.
Has anybody done this? Any advice?
Thank you in advance
Oh Gosh what a situation!!!
First of all you have time to carefully consider what to do- an abortion is allowed until 10weeks- you don’t need to rush to any decision today or tomorrow.
My advice is to think about yourself- what do you want and what is best for you! This decision must come out of you!
Your situation is very common, I met many women in your shoes and they are all terrified.
I know thousand, millions of women that would die to get pregnant…
With all my experience i have never heard any regrets from a woman that has decided to have a child but mostly regrets that she didn’t have.
It’s all about you, you know what you want- take the decision whatever is best for you!
It’s not an easy situation but when someone feels lonely and abandoned most probably the pregnancy and the new life inside you should give this fantastic sensation that the love,the pure love really exists and you have it. I think that the baby will give you this unconditional sense that your existance has real sense because according to me to create and bring up a new life is the most satisfied achievement for any women.
Don’t be afraid…unexpected situations terrify but I am sure that you will find the force to overwhelm all the difficulties and be proud of yourselve.
You have time to consider everything and make your plan….
your life sounds great- House, dog, employment…I guess great bunch of friends.
Depends on your views and your age you can make the right decision for you.
Just move on and live, no time for regrets.
how are you? What have you decided?
Hello my dear sister,
Hope you made the right decision at the most difficult stage of your life. Though its been a while I believe these words will bring you freedom.
I find myself in the same dilemma when my husband wanted an abortion instead of a third baby.
I am just few weeks gone. I have decided to keep this and deliver the next “David”for my country and the kingdom of God. It was a tough decision but one thing that inspired me was that , almost/nearly aborted children mostly turn turn out unique, powerful, special, talented, brilliant, influential and so on.
Be strong as a woman and believe me, you will never regret you had him or her.
Let’s hear from you again soon.
Stay well and safe.
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